My dad has recently been diagnosed with stage 3 oesophageal cancer. I feel so useless just asking him how he is and what's happening, I so wish I could do more.
I've said if there is anything at all he needs or if there is anyway I can help to just let me know. It's still early days so he's still in and out of hospital having numerous tests done. I can't go and see him as often as I would like to because he has to isolate for days before his appointments, and I can't go with him to his appointments as his partner (who has been brilliant and supportive) has accompanied him to them all and covid restrictions mean we can't all go
I still have to work full time (fortunately they've been brilliant and tell me to take whatever time I need off should I need it) but, what else can I do? I feel so strange just carrying on like relatively normal when this is going on.
hi ,
Sorry to hear about your dad and totally get what who mean about trying to help, it can be very difficult as everyone want to know everything and other at this stage of the process there is remarkably little to know. Sometimes a simple text message "thinking of you" for instance can be very comforting.
It might help you to read through Supporting a family member with cancer though I am sure your dad is probably quite glad you are doing your best to keep going as normal.
<<hugs>>
Steve
