Ok so they found colon cancer for my partner (of 24 years) a couple of days ago. Tests to find out size, stage etc now happening with full diagnosis somewhere around Xmas? In the new year?
I'm totally freaking out today about everything. I've noticed that I've been doing calm coping but today I'm shaking and feel so weird and scared.
We are FULLTIME GRANDPARENTS to our 3 Yr old granddaughter and her legal guardians. Because my daughter is fighting addiction and mental health. We are already at our limit for facing a difficult time. And now this!
I'm so worried about how I will cope and of course the practicals. We don't have a robust support network and not much support for little one. This needs to change now because it's absolutely necessary.
I know everyone's situation is unique, but let's put it this way I wasn't coping b4 this! I have been getting help and trying to face the non coping and build myself back up but omg this has slayed me.
I'm terrified. How will I be there for my beloved? So reaching out....
For connection, community, support, conversation.
Hi ClaireIndigo and welcome to our community.
It does sound like you have a awful lot going on with both your daughter and your granddaughter so can understand how totally overwhelmed it can be. Glad too that you recognize the need to make sure your granddaughter will be cared for no matter what as I bet she is the total apple of your eye.
I know with my son and my wife's diagnosis how absolutely essential one set of friends became to us - that saying of "a friend in need" really came to roost with us.
Going through the diagnosis time is very hard as we often hear "the sooner you get treatment the better" - in practice of course it is very important to get the right treatment too and that can take a while to work out. Sometimes I get some comfort from the words of Randy Armstrong “Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.”.
I know I ended up doing a living with less stress course and it really helped me - it sounds like you might have done something similar in talking about "calm coping" - but sometimes there is nothing quite like a good cry - happy films often set me off.
<<hugs>>
Steve
