Hiya, please can someone give me some advice because I'm in pieces!
Me and my best friend have been friends now for almost 20 years. Her kids are my godchildren and I idolise them so much. She really is my right arm and visa versa.
My best friend has had stage 4 bowel cancer, spread to her whole liver and recently found out the chemo isn't working.
Three weeks ago, we was told she could have SIRT, but not on the NHS so had to raise £35,000. So we set up a JustGiving and within a week we raised the money and then some, but we have now found out it may actually not be possible and we are now racing against time to find her other treatment. It seems we have found someone who may be able to help but its going to cost.
In order to make more money, I went into 'business mode' a few weeks ago and considering I've never done a fundraiser before, I had this idea, got a group of people closest to her together and got the ball rolling. I am expecting over a thousand people and blood sweat and tears have gone into it from every single person involved. I've gone to extremes on social media, constant content, updates and even live, doing a question and answer as so many people are invested in my friends story and she's not great with stuff like that so is happy for me to take the reins.
Trying to keep this as short as possible. With the fundraiser, some of her family are involved and helping. In the group chat yesterday, I sent a text that was received as rude and I see completely what they are saying, but we have all been there in a rush to send a text out, I have said my sincere apology but the family are really upset with me over it and I don't think it can be reversed. Its a shame as we have always got on so well. I wish everyone on here could actually see what I've done behind closed doors and the things my friend says to me. Its extremely hard because I am literally the only person who has ever stuck by her and now all this is being thrown back in my face.
Can someone tell me what to do because I'm ready to give up and just take a step back and hand everything I've done over to the family, which is a lot! I feel like saying, how dare you treat me like this when I'm the one person who has stood by your sister! Not just now but since we was kids and she makes it clear how much she's grateful for me and loves me.
I've been reaching out to celebs, journalists (her story has been published online and papers) and everything else in between and it feels like I've had it thrown back in my face and being told its the 'Jade' show. This has hurt me so much, because I am trying so hard to go to the ends of the earth to raise money so we can try and save her life and explore other treatment elsewhere!
I'm gutted guys! What would you do if you feel so unappreciated and know full well that you still need to put this fundraiser on, but its going to be so awkward!
Please help me. For the last year I haven't left her side, but now I feel so alone!
HI JessD91
sounds to me like you are a friend in a million to have around. What you've achieved so far to support your friend sounds fantastic.
One thing you didn't mention was your friend's reaction to your hastily sent message. How did she take it? Was she upset or offended?
I'm no expert here but I agree it is easy to send a hastily written message without fully thinking about how it could be construed.
Perhaps easier said then done but I'd keep going with your plans. This is about doing the best for your friend and raising the funds needed for her treatment. If others are going to let their personal feelings get in the way of this then that's for them to deal with. Are they maybe jealous here?
I hope the dust settles and the event's a success and more importantly that your friend is able to get the treatment in time.
Stay strong. Stay focused on the target here. Hold you head up high.
Hang in there
love n hugs
Wee Me xx
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