Hi all , my husband has recently been diagnosed with oesophageal cancer and is still having tests done to grade it and decide his treatment .we have 3 children 20, 18 and 4 the oldest 2 understand and we havd been supporting each other ,we have told some family members but to be honest ( and I feel really bad) I'm getting fed up with family memders telling me "it's going to be fine" , "he will be ok", " when I though I had it ,it turned out not to be so he might not even have cancer" , "don't stress about it till he has had all the tests done"? etc...iv got to the point I don't want to talk to them about it anymore , thoughts go through my head like " they don't know that for sure" and " I'm not asking for reassurance just someone to listen to me" " He has been diagnosed with it" I keep telling myself they mean well but I don't know how or weather I should tell them how I'm feeling or to just grin and bare it . Im finding small talk hard aswell .My eldest 2 understand what I'm saying and are great support but they are both off to uni September so im feeling a bit sorry for myself at the mo then hide it when hubby comes back from work . He is working fof as long as he possibly can bless him . We have got said alot to our 4 year old yet but she does know he is ill because he is sick alot x
am I a bad person fof thinking this about what they are saying to me or is this kind of normal .
