I have just received the devastating news that my friend in America has terminal pancreatic cancer and only has a few months left to live. I want to support her but am uncertain how to, as I am unable to go and visit her.
My only thoughts at the moment are to send letters, postcard, cards with news of my life but don't know if this inappropriate. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I might support her in what I write and in any other ways than writing. I am unable to phone her.
Many thanks
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to hear that your friend in America has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and it's natural that you want to support her.
You say that you can't phone her but could you talk to her via Skype or Facetime? If not, then I'm sure she'd appreciate texts and emails from you and, if you're not sure what sort of things to say, then have a look at this advice from Macmillan.
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