Hello new here. Dad was diagnosed with lung cancer just under a week ago, they also did a staging scan and we havent officially been told but from what we understand it's stage 4.
They sent him home with us over the weekend which has proved to be a big challenge and he was in today for his biopsy.
We're struggling a little as he's a much older dad and before the biopsy results it seems there's very little help in our area.
However, on top of that he seems to have become very dependent very quickly. We're concerned about this not only because we want him to be as comfortable and happy as possible but we're expecting the next appointment to come with more bad news and we don't know if he'll cope. At the moment we are having to administer his pain medication, make him all his tea and food etc. There are some bits and pieces I know he can't do himself but I think largely its his mental rather than physical health stopping him from doing other stuff. There are a lot of logistics I won't go into but he can't stay with me long term and he's resistant to care.
I'm sure all this is completely normal and I can't even imagine what's going through his head right now but we feel so stuck.
I really want to encourage him to take back some independence but I think he takes it as me trying to kick him out of my place.
This is probably pretty incoherent sorry!
Any comforting words or advice would be gratefully accepted x
Hi and welcome to the online community at what sounds like a very difficult time for you.
I'm sorry to hear that your dad has recently been diagnosed with lung cancer so it's no wonder to hear that you're struggling.
I haven't been in your position so can't really help with your query about how to encourage your dad to become less dependent on you.
Could I suggest that you join and post this message in the carers group as there will probably be others in your situation there. If you'd like to do this then clicking on the link I've created will take you straight there.
When you have a minute it would be really useful if could pop something about your dad's journey so far into your profile as it helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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