Mum is terminal with brain cancer, spread from breast

Morning Stacey  /

So sorry to read about your poor mum and see you have had no replies as yet, but I couldn't read and run :-/

Unfortunately not everyone who has breast cancer recovers and it is tough for family and friends to see a loved one cope with this terrible disease when they start to decline in health.

Most when told how bad things have progressed don't know what to say or do, say say and do nothing which makes the whole thing worse emotionally.

There is a Supporting Someone With Incurable cancer Group you can find and join by clicking the coloured text link.

You can 'chat' to other members facing the same scenario and ask questions about caring and support for your mum and yourself at this tough time.

Hope you find this is of some help for now, G n' J

Thank you for replying Dreamthief! 

I just feel abit numb about it all! To go through so much and then be told theirs nothing else they can do...just heart breaking. 

I'll look at the other groups. 

Thanks again!

Hi stacey

im so sorry to hear about your mum, it’s absolutely devastating isn’t it.

my lovely Mam came into hospital two weeks ago with breathing difficulties, and it’s transpired she has cancer, it’s so out of the blue, no signs or symptoms, I’m in complete shock.

im 54 and Mam is 89 , so iv been lucky to have her for all these years, so I feel for you so so much .

Just take one day at a time , say everything you need to say how much she means to you , which I’m sure she knows, have a cuppa and start again, that’s my mantra at the moment, and if you want to talk I’m here.xxxxxx

Hi, 

Thank you for replying. Unfortunately my mum passed peacefully away on the 9th...we are all devastated but i did get to say all the things i wanted her to hear. So i am very lucky in that sense! Our last words to each other were that we loved each other lots

It's been a few days but I'm just feeling so numb. I still have to carry on and be mum around my girls, take them to pre-school etc. I went to call her tonight but realised i clearly couldn't!

I'm so sorry to hear of your news with you mum. Make these last memories with her count. Bring up those old memories and the photos and make her laugh. It really helped us! 

Xxx