Hi everyone my closest friend who has also been my nurse carer and with me 10 hours a day for 16 years has just been fishy with lung cancer. We are a team and we have an amazing bond and she is the closest person to me in my life!! She had a chest infection over Christmas and they did a scan to check that it wasn’t pneumonia and found a shadow as u guys must know the last 2 weeks she has been bombarded with tests cameras biopsy’s etc - I have been trying to be positive for her but she told me that she has been told it’s not curable but treatable but she doesn’t want to go down the treatment root! It’s all a bit of a shock as she is very healthy still works and feels great!! and I think it’s worse for her as her baby brother died from king cancer 4 months after finding out and she has looked after so many people with cancer!! It’s so hard to see someone I love who looks so fit and healthy now in absolute bits and so scared!! I’m so scared for her and I just feel so helpless I wish I cd rest her mind but it feels like wrecking ball has just knocked her down. I’m so scared for her!! She just keeps saying she wish she had never been told!! Today she told me that she thinks the dr was talking about 2 years but she can’t remember whether he was saying how long she has etc. No one has mentioned surgery so I think it must be quite progressed I just feel completely she’ll shocked and want to be here for her I’m just so lost she is the closest person in my life and I just want to take all this heartache away from her!! Any advice wd be great thanks for listening guys
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to hear that your best friend has just been diagnosed with lung cancer.
Many cancers these days are incurable but treatable, meaning that while they can't get rid of the cancer, treatment can be given to keep the cancer stable. It must be very hard for you to accept that your friend has decided not to have treatment.
You may also like to think about joining the lung cancer group where you can ask questions and share experiences with others who have lung cancer. If you'd like to do this just click on the link I've created which will take you straight to that group.
I'm not sure from your post if you're now going to be caring for her but, if so, you might find this information on planning ahead when you are looking after someone with cancer useful and also this information on practical support.
When you have a minute it would be really useful if could pop something about your friend's journey so far into your profile as it helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
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