Mother in law diagnosed with bowel liver and lung

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Wow there's lots of people on this website and lots of groups. Also lots and lots to read. 

Sadly October of last year my father in law was diagnosed with prostate cancer. He is going to have radiation. In-between Xmas and new year my mother in law had tests done due to lossing blood. It was bowel cancer. Last week we found out that it's spread to her liver and lungs. Her son my husband isn't dealing with it well at all. He won't phone her see her or even talk about any of it. When he gets angry I take the blunt of all of it. Like everything's my fault. I feel lost angry but most of all desperate. I want to help him support him and be there but I can't deal with him taking it out on me. 

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    FormerMember

    So sorry to read this.

    The diagnosis with your M-I-L is still very recent, and very raw, so hopefully as time goes on your husband will find ways of dealing with things. I am sure he is feeling pretty lost right now. There isn’t anything we can say or do, but you can always let him know that it hurts you to take the brunt. That you are there for him, you empathise with him and that together you can face the future. With my other half when he is like this I just tend to let him be. But it isn’t easy. Give it some time...but don’t let yourself get too run down in the process xx