I think I'm probably here to try and express my thoughts, its 1.20am and I'm up at 4am for work!
So this isn't a new diagnosis, my Dad was first diagnosed with MDS (Myelodysplastic Syndrome) about 2 years ago. A huge kick because at the time my best friend was fighting throat cancer.
I feel kind of stretched out like a piece of elastic, my friend passed away and then I moved into wrapping my head around my Dads diagnosis.
My Dad is extremely practical he's organised his funeral, sorted his will and as he refers to it quite openly he is slowly dying. I on the other hand am struggling to think about a time he won't be around and especially when he speaks so matter of fact about his own death.
He has had a scare with Sepsis, which was like a wake up call. Living so far away from my parents when I found out he was poorly I struggled to get my Mum to understand how serious his condition was, thankfully he pulled through.
I read a good piece recently called The Long Goodbye, certainly something I could relate to.
Anyway I'm here to just offload a little, listen and if anyone is going through a similar situation share some thoughts.
Hi ,
Sorry to hear about your dad and your friend. I can totally relate to the bit about you dad being really organised and somehow finding it harder to process your own emotions. Also very much relate to the issues around sepsis, it can be very frightening especially with the speed it can strike. While you probably do not feel very much like a classic "carer" that you care is clear from your message how much you do and that can be very hard when you are far away.
One thing that was really helpful with my parents was that they has arranged enduring powers of attorney, this was really helpful when my day became really ill in that my sister was then able to manage his medical and financial affairs.
<<hugs>>
Steve
