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FormerMember over 5 years ago

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My mum got diagnosed with inoperable terminal stomach cancer in April this year. This year started off great with me having my little girl who is my mum's first grandchild, everything so perfect and then bam.

I have an older sister but I feel like I have to be the strong one and supportive one at this time for her, my mum and the rest of my family. It is already stressful having a new born.

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Have always said to my mum that I will support her decisions as at the beginning she wasn't sure wanted chemo and I respected her if she chose that way. Mum opted to go through chemo but I feel selfish in the sense that we had heartache when we found out the diagnosis and I am dreading the day that her consultant tells her the chemo is no longer working and there is nothing else they can do and we have to go through the heartache all over again.

I try to remain strong in front of everyone, and struggle to open up to people about how I feel especially my mum and sister. I have a very supportive and caring husband but feel like I can't burden him with it. Sometimes I feel so alone x

FormerMember over 5 years ago

Hi, so sorry to hear about your mum.

My husband has just been diagnosed with an aggressive stomach cancer with metastasis, no surgery possible.

He's been offered palliative chemo, we've decided to try it.

Without it they are saying that he may have 4 months.

If you would like to keep in touch please feel free to contact me.

It does help to have someone outside of the family to talk to.... Mandy x

FormerMember over 5 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Hi mandy

Thanks for your reply. I am so sorry to hear about your husband his situation sounds similar to my mums as when she had a laproscopy that is when they noticed it affects the whole of her stomach and has started to show signs of spread into her abdomen.

Mums consultant says that if my mum wants to stop the chemo then it may only be a matter of weeks or months that she would have left. Some days like today she just wants to give up and it is upsetting but I don't want her to suffer.

It is my mum's birthday today and we are off to see her tomorrow as I have had to work today, it upsets me to think that this may be her best last birthday we will have together and as for a present I have no idea wheee to start.

Hope your husband is doing OK on the chemo.

Here is u every need to talk

Hayley

FormerMember over 5 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Hi Haley... How's things going on?

Thanks for letting me know your around for a chat, it does help, same here hun.

My husband start's his treatment next week, he's only got the picc line in yesterday.

I must say that both your mum and my hubby seem like they're at the same stage.

I feel like we're on the scariest ride of our lives.

My husband, Jon, has been offered to take part in some drug trials alongside the chemo, which if they accept him he's willing to do. I'm extremely scared of it all starting to be honest but I know it's a good thing to try.

Please do feel free to contact me, I'm around occasionally and will answer when I can.

You take good care of you, be strong but cry when you need to.

With hugs.

Mandy x

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