I have just joined this site. Am at my wits end. My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer, then had a mastectomy and skin saving reconstruction immediately afterwards. This happened 8 weeks ago, fortunately this was physically successful and the result is amazing.
I need to be frank - I am so thankful that my wife is alive, has no greater risk of any further cancer than her peer group and that the treatment has been timely and successful. However the emotional turmoil has led to my wife having distanced herself, busying herself doing 1001 and 1 things and it has ultimately led to her concluding that our marriage is over.
I found it very difficult to be away from her and to give her the space that she needed, but did so because she asked me to and because I did not want to add to her stress. She gives the impression of being OK outwardly. I feel that my current emotional state is nothing compared to what she has been going through. But the ending of our marriage is devastating and there is nothing I can do. I just do not know where to turn and I am desperate to find anyone who may have/had a similar experience to get my head around it.
Sorry, if I have not used the appropriate forum for this, but I do not know what to do or where to turn.
Thank you.
Hi and welcome to the online community
That's great news that your wife's breast cancer has been successfully removed and she's well on the road to a full recovery.
Unfortunately, as you have found, a cancer diagnosis can have a massive impact on the whole family and not just the person who has been diagnosed. I'm really sorry to hear that your wife has decided that your marriage is over. Have you suggested to your wife that you both go to some form of relationship guidance?
I have not been in this position but noticed that your post had gone unanswered. By replying it will nudge it back to the top of the page where someone who has been through this might see it and be able to reply.
I'm also going to tag the community champions who look after this group src60 and to see if they can give you any advice on where you can go from here.
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