I’m 25, still live at home with my parents & my mum has recently had a breast cancer diagnosis.
She needs to have CT/Bone scans before she starts treatment and to determine where/what stage the cancer is at.
I was only told yesterday so Im definitely in a state of shock. I suffer from anxiety anyway so my mindset is not good at all. I have a large and supportive family and we will get through this together. However, I’m struggling to see how i will cope. My mum is my best friend and if I did lose her at this age I really wouldn’t know what to do. I feel selfish for feeling like this as it’s her that should be the one breaking down.
If anyone else is in a similar position or has experienced their mum having cancer please share your coping mechanisms with me. As I feel very very lost and numb.
Thank you x
Hi and welcome to the club nobody wants to join though sorry to hear about your mother.
There is no need at all to feel selfish for how you feel and I am sure we all remember the shock after diagnosis and the wait that seems like ever to find out the extend of the issue and what treatment options will be available.
My experience is somewhat different to yours but what really helped me at first was reaching out to talk to someone. My first was with a local Maggies centre and just talking to a complete stranger helped me voice my fears. Later I did their living with less stress course and it helped me focus on the here and now and appreciate what we have now rather than living in that black future that of course I may never see. The controlled breathing exercises were great for dealing with news that might not be so positive and also is helpful in relaxing. If you use our in your area tool you will be able to find groups near you.
Do post on here too whenever, someone is always listening.
<<hugs>>
Steve.
