Hi everyone,
I'm new here and new to Cancer entirely to be honest, have been fortunate enough until now not to have close ones affected.
I'm seeking a bit of support and advice, feeling very lost and alone.
My dad is in his 50s, we're very close, I'm almost 30 and have three daughters who adore their Grandpa. He's been unwell over the past couple of years and suffered several heart attacks, but recently he's been doing a lot better with his heart.
However about two month ago a large lump formed on his neck. It took a month before tests revealed cancer in his lympnodes. They were doing lots of tests when he was rushed to hospital with pneumonia. We've had a rough couple of weeks to say the least. Whilst in hospital he's been told he has fluid on his heart but is too poorly with pneumonia to drain it. He's had 800ml drained from his lung and continues to be in hospital in great amounts of pain. His cardiologist told him he is nonspecialist but his cancer results were on the system, he thinks it's tonsil cancer but can't tell us anything more. They're testing the fluid from his lung but as it's the weekend we won't have results just yet. He's using a breathing mask and having antibiotics via iv.
I'm devastated and extremely anxious. I need to be strong for my mum, I'm an only child, for my dad of course as he's going through so much right now and my babies who are worried and still so little they need their mummy not to be a mess lol!
Im heartbroken and don't know what to expect. Noone has any answers for us and he's too sick to see the cancer doctor at a different hospital, he's been in hospital for 9 days now.
Just looking for a little guidance and support, I have no idea about any of this and am fretting the outlook is grim. He has a second lump in his groin now too.
Thank you to anyone who can tell me anything at all. Xx
Hi and welcome to the online community at what sounds like a very difficult time for all the family.
It's natural to be anxious when someone you love is suspected of having cancer. Hopefully, since you've posted this message you know more about what is wrong with your dad and whether it's cancer or not. If it is cancer then come back and let me know what type he has as I could then point you in the direction of a cancer specific group to join where you can ask questions and get support.
By understanding what your dad might be facing you'll be able to support him and your mum. However, it's also important to look after yourself and accept help from others.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
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