Mum has days - Lung Cancer

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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We moved Mum to a care home/hospice today.

I dont think she will be alive in a week, but it has utterly broken my Dad having her at home.

She isn't in pain, but it's so hard to watch. I spoke to her 2 days ago about her moving to a place where she would be properly looked after. She initially wanted to die at home, but 2 days ago, she said that it probably was for the best. I thanked her, and promised I wasnt going to leave her. And I'm not going to.

I am currently in a chair with my feet on a chest of drawers watching my mum struggle for breath. And im not leaving.

Still not sure why I'm posting here....

Life can be hard. But she said herself, she has had a great life. My phrase to her each time she opens her eyes is

I'm here

I love you

Everything is just fine

Ouch. This hurts

FormerMember over 5 years ago

Really thinking of you and your parents x My dad is about to be sent home, he’s paralysed now where bone mets have crushed his spinal column. A hoist is being fitted and carers will go in, but I am worried sick about how my mum will cope at 73.. it’s heartbreaking x I’m glad that your mum wanted the hospice at this critical time...I totally get how difficult it is at home. Love to you and yours x

FormerMember over 5 years ago

I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this.

I was in a near-identical situation with my dad a few weeks ago, unfortunately he didn't live long enough to move into a hospice. I regret not being with him when he died but I think I was in denial about how bad it was.

Keeping your mum company and letting her know she's loved is the best thing you can do for her.

Sending strength to you and your dad x

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