My Mum was diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer in 2016, that has spread to the liver and is inoperable. She was told that with chemo she would have about 2 years. She is still going at the moment and while not feeling great, she is okay. However, lately she has had suffered from sepsis and she was in the hospital with this for 2 weeks. She is still feeling tired and quite depressed. I'm really struggling with what to do. My Mum has always been amazing and so active - it's awful seeing her like this. I don't want to talk to my family as I know that it will really upset them and I know that if I spoke to my Mum she would feel guilty, which isn't fair. Sometimes I don't know what to say. I've just started a new job as well and I am feeling a little overwhelmed. I don't know if I should tell my new boss about the situation or not as I don't want him to treat me differently... I think what I'm struggling with most is knowing that there is no cure. It feels like there is a clock ticking and we're just waiting for that awful moment when Mum isn't with us anymore. Mum also is feeling like time is running out. How do you cope with this? Does it get better? I feel like there is no way to come to terms with this and that after all this time I should have, but I just can't. Sorry for the rant.
Hi, sorry to hear about your mum and can relate to the sepsis as it almost took my wife even before we got the cancer diagnosis.
Many people find it tricky to talk to family as they feel they dont know what to say but in probability everyone feels overwhelmed and if somehow people did manage to talk it might be easier. Sounds like apart from this sepsis incident your mum has beendoing quite well so perhaps the prognosis was too pessimistic or they underestimated your mum, it can be tricky though not to see something like a ticking bomb, my wife never wanted a prognosis and I struggled with that but 6 years from diagnosis I realse how sensible that was.
Starting a new job can be really challenging to and while the sense of normality at work can be very positive it is important to remember you do need to look after yourself too. Do post on here whenever you need it is what we are here for and their are lots of tips you can get to help you cope whatever the news.
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Steve
