Mum has untreatable lung cancer here in UK and I have held my relationship, career and home in South Africa to be here.
And i dont want to be here. This anger is wracking me with guilt. I am trying to be patient, watching num and dad struggle, both smoking like trains in the house, him being unable to scramble an egg...refusing to ask other people for help..
All the time I am watching my other life slip away from me. I have got myself I to debt as I cant work..
I am just angry...
No, you're not the only one!
I can't imagine how bad that is, with your own life in a different country, feels bad enough juggling work, family life and being 200 miles away dealing with appointments, doctors, relaying updates to everyone else.
It's the waiting that drives me nuts.
Save the anger for where it belongs - this bloody evil disease.
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