Mum's Cancer

Hi, I am in a very similar situation - my Mum was given 2 years in 2016 as well and she is still fighting.  I sometimes find it really difficult to deal with as my Mum has always been so strong and there for me.  I find it difficult to talk to my family as I don't want to upset them and am worried that I will make my Mum feel guilty if I tell her that I'm struggling.  I know that it might not be the best advice, but I have found it really useful reading some of the stories on here, just to know that I'm not alone.  Also, I am making an effort to write everything down and that is quite therapeutic because I can be completely honest with how I'm feeling and how unfair cancer is!  Also, I am trying to keep myself busy with things to look forward to - days out, movie nights and especially things with my Mum.  Like I said, the thing that I've found the best though, is this website and knowing I'm not alone.

Hey i’m In a similar boat. I have only just joined this site today. I’m still at the disbelief stage that all this is happening again so won’t be much support but I just wanted to thank you for sharing this. Your mum sounds incredible. For your situation I would apply the ‘fake it till you make it’ thing. As long as she thinks you are ok she will be ok and in turn that will help you. It’s just really crap so allow yourself to feel how you do and know that’s ok. You might feel better for not being so hard on yourself. For your mum to be doing so well, you must be doing a good job as she wouldn’t be if she was worried for you. You’re doing great.  

Aww thank u. Yeah my mum is amazing, she's been fighting non stop through all this. She's done amazingly well, considering she's also a full time carer for her partner whose disabled. I spent the weekend with my mum so we had quality time together. She's got an appointment Wednesday to have a mask fitted for when she starts radiotherapy, so hoping she'll start the treatment next week if not before.