Sorry but I'm having a bad day and I just need to let it out. Â I woke up feeling like I've had no sleep and really down. Â Mum's been bad this week - a lot of pain and, I think, sliding into depression - so I'm in overdrive on worrying about her. Â My sister is with her today so I don't need to go round to see mum although I probably will drop round later. Â I thought I would throw myself into cleaning the house so make myself busy and then I'd start to feel better. Â My fatal mistake was asking my 18 year old daughter to help. Â She had a major strop. Â I tried to keep calm as I realise that she is worrying about my mum too but it was hard. Â I tried to talk to her but she just got worse and worse so I gave up. Â Then my husband made sarcastic comments about it all - again he is worrying and his mum is also not well - so I am still trying to keep a lid on it. Â But I feel even worse now. Â I'm now sitting on the sofa in my pyjama's watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy without the will to do anything else. Â I just keep crying and feel so very very sad.Â
I feel more like me. I'm loving my new job. People are really nice and my new boss is great.Â
I feel like something has eased. I still miss mum but it doesn't hurt as much, most of the time. I miss my little dog too but I'm coping, finally. I spent so long not coping it's a relief to not think that one more thing would break me completely.Â
I still have moments where it sweeps over me, but that's normal.
I hope everyone is ok.Â
I would still love for us all to meet, one day. X
Elenium
Hello Elenium,
Really lovely to hear you’re going great guns , just proves how much of a numpty your old boss was, their loss.
It would be lovely to meet everyone, i agree.Â
Keep going,everyone,  the wanting doesn’t go I think but maybe the previously unimaginable lessening of pain and loss does creep in but always with love remaining.  As before, each day starts as the new norm although sometimes it might end being the same as yesterday but that’s usually okay. There are good days but also still bad days and sad days which I know is how it is , I feel I am a different person and so my life is to how I /it was 2 years ago , 1 year ago ... how could I not be? As always, love and thanks to you all xxxx
Take a deep breath ... then on with the day.
I'm so sorry. Sending you a big hug. We're here for you if you want to 'talk'
X
Elenium
Happy Easter to you Elenium and all the virtual family,Â
so sorry to read the previous post, my heart goes out to you and your family, sadly we have been in that position and it’s awful beyond words but we are here to listen if you feel you want to say anything, please take careÂ
So sorry to hear your news. Rest if you can and hope you have somebody to support you.
As Elenium and Yantibee say, keep in touch, let us help and listen
Xxx
Take a deep breath ... then on with the day.
Oh Im so sad to hear this news. Its a wretched time, take one day at a time, take deep breathes, do whatever you feel like doing, apologise to nobody, be as wild and angry or sad as you need to be. Its time for you to grieve, and as Ive now learnt, mum was right, everyones journey of grief, can be so very different. x
Always Remember the Precious Moments x
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