Having a bad day

Am moved by your words Maisiemae.

We are here when you need. 

Loving thoughts to your lovely Mum she sounds amazing.  

Jx

I'm thinking of you and your mum Maisiemae.  We're all here when you need us.

Have had to call to against Alan's wishes. His belligerent side has resurfaced.

I was up 3 times last night to help him to the bathroom. Yesterday all he ate & drank was a mug of beef Oxo, 2 squares of chocolate & some diluted orange juice. He's blaming his lack of appetite on the foul smell of my chilli! This morning he said he didn't care if he died from the cancer or from starvation. He doesn't want "interfering do gooders" bothering him! I said a few minutes ago tough shit!! I can't care for you or  give you any stronger pain relief without medical intervention. He's now sulking, & I've left him to it to be honest. I'm going to chat to the GP before he see's Alan. The surgery called back & were shocked that no assessments have been done, either by theDistrict nurses or the palliative care team, whom I'm yet to hear from 5 weeks after he was discharged!! 

Scream!!!!!

I can't remember whether you've said but does Alan have steroids? Mum was at same place foodwise still doesn't eat a lot but improved since taking them take's 1mg a day. Started with 2mg.

You're right to call for help.   I do the same mum always says no to phoning anyone. 

Hope you get help soon.

I have to phone hospice nurse on Wednesday or thurs after consultant appointment with mum IF I can get her there.  She has increased pain and her pelvis "may fracture spontaneously" makes me feel sick.  Mum won't phone.

Jx

Sue,

Surely the GP surgery should be chasing up the palliative care team?

It must be a bloody nightmare for you. How is Alan now?  Is he still sulking?  Has the GP been round?

Oh Jenny, I feel like we should all get together and have a group hug.  We all need it.

Count me in - mums being blue lighted to hospital for emergency operation - the pain is hernia and obstructed bowel on top of advanced terminal cancer! But if we do nothing her death will be beyond handling the pain and next door have complained the ambulance were in their way - i need to smash their faces in!!!!!

Your  Mums neighbours sound wholesome. ...I'd explode...

Your poor Mum. Hope though that the op helps her..sounds like it might.

Hug.

Jx

Ps. My Mum enjoyed a coffee. It stayed down.

I'd help you, with the neighbours, maisiemae.

Hope the op helps.

That's good about your mum Jenny.

We've got the hospital tomorrow to see if mum can have a stoma.  If she can then hopefully the fistula will be able to heal and she'll stop getting infectons and pain. My only worry is that the pain isn't from the infections but from the cancer spreading.