Feel completely alone

I’m so sorry you are feeling so low and lonely.I’m feeling like that but for different reasons.It is hard when you are ignored when you say you are lonely and need support.I wish I could help you.I’m always here to chat if that would be helpful to you.Love Jane xx

Thank you Jane, I’m learning that this is an incredibly lonely journey to be on, and also petrifying. It’s amazing how many people turn their back when you tell them you’re not doing so well mentally - no doubt they’d be surprised if you were finally tipped over the edge. I’m hoping I’ve never made anyone feel that way in their time of need 

I’m sorry you are not getting the support you deserve.I hope you get some help from being part of this community.Love Jane xxx

I have never felt so alone as I have done recently so I can empathise with your feelings.

I’ve been completely alone since 23rd December with my partner in hospital and me only being able to visit once, though I am getting a lift today. I had to ask for that so I can take in some fresh clothes.

People are saying the right things on social media but that’s just virtue signaling to me. I have been sent a couple of food deliveries because I cannot leave the house but no-one asked what might be useful…I have diabetes and need to watch what I eat, and most of what was delivered is unsuitable so will unfortunately be wasted-I cannot get out to deliver it to a food bank.

I can hardly move around because of my arthritis, can’t have a shower or even put my boots on. Not one person has come to my door in all this time and there’s no sign of my partner getting out of hospital soon. It was an awful Christmas and now I’m facing an awful new year. 

To cap it all off, my phone broke yesterday and is completely dead, so apart from this iPad I have no way to contact anyone if anything happens. I’m feeling very vulnerable right now, 

I tried very hard to stay positive all through my own treatment, and defied the odds to survive surgery. Today, I’m honestly left wondering if it was worth it. 

Sarah xx

Oh Sarah,What a time you are enduring.I can completely relate to the why did I survive the surgery.It is really hard to stay upbeat when so many things go wrong.I hope there is better news from the hospital today.Love and hugs Jane xx

Thank you, Jane. Sorry I haven’t messaged you-I’ll try to do that later when I get home. Need to put my smiley face on at the hospital-just another mask.

Sarah xx

I didn’t expect you to reply Sarsh.Thinking of you both xxx

So sorry to hear you're not getting the support you need. I hope you find it here, and from reaching out to people wherever you can. Sometimes the only thing that makes me feel better is knowing that other people are in support of you, and wishing you better, and going through the same things. I hope that starts to make a difference to you too, maybe after a while. love Jo xx

I'm sorry that I'm only just replying, and I am so sorry to hear how alone you are feeling too.  I hope that visiting your partner yesterday gave you a small boost.

Do you feel able to reach out to people to tell them that you need help?  I've done that a few times this week, not everyone was forthcoming but a few have raised their heads over the parapet.

Are you able to take your phone somewhere to get repaired?  All of the shops will be reopened tomorrow.

Have you reached out to Social Services etc. to ask for any help or assistance?

It is a very lonely place to find yourself, being all alone, and support from strangers online can be helpful but does have a limit - we all need that human contact and to know that people actually want to care for us and put a physical arm around us.

Do you still call Macmillan for support?  Or even the Samaritans?  If things get really hard, I'd urge you to call 111 and ask for mental health support.  Take care, things will get better x

How are you feeling today ?