Being a career while going through cancer treatment

Hi Marky599bb0,I didn’t have chemo but became seriously ill with bladder cancer whilst caring for my disabled mother.You really need to think of your own health now.I couldn’t manage and contacted social services and I got mum into respite care at a nearby care home.I had surgery and 8 months post op I was able to get mum back home again with the help of 2 carers.You can ask for a carers assessment and see what help is available.Mum got some funding then but did have to pay towards her care.It’s too much caring for someone when you are seriously ill yourself and I can relate to your feelings.love Jane x

Hi Jane, thank you for replying to my post, I am new to this community and it’s so nice to see people actually giving caring response. It sounds you’ve been through a lot yourself. The problem is my husband is quite stubborn and doesn’t want any help in the house. I spoke to my oncology nurses and they said it’s quite common, so i’ll just need to work on him so he allows me to get some help for him. Thank you for relating to my feelings, it helps just knowing that there are people out there coping with similar or worse circumstances. Marketa xx

Hi Marketa,My mother was incredibly stubborn and it made things very difficult.She didn’t want any help other than me and was extremely resistant to having carers.She had dementia latterly which added to the problems.I had to do a lot of persuading but eventually she agreed to us having extra help.I hope you can persuade your husband to allow you extra help so you can rest more etc.Love Jane xx

Thank you, Jane, for your kind words, the stubbornness must be very common. Wishing you all the best, Marketa xx

I think it is.Mum was the most stubborn person I have ever known.She died in 2022 and I still miss caring for her,She was disabled following a brain haemorrhage and subsequent strokes.Take care Jane xx