Hi all, I am new to all this and not really sure what I am looking for except to get it all off my chest and see if anyone has been through this also.
I am awaiting my 2nd surgery for Grade 3 DCIS, it is due in 3 days.
My husband and I have been struggling with our marriage for a few years now, we have 2 kids. 1 is 10 and the other is 8.
We have argued lots on and off for a while now and really I am tired of it all. He has admitted he has not felt part of the marriage for just as long as I have but he doesn't want to talk about how we can move forward.
We could not separate and stay under the same roof. I can not afford the house on my own and would be fine to get somewhere smaller but but he will absolutely not engage further with me in what we should do now.
I guess until my treatment is over I can't really go anywhere anyway but I don't want to remain here, miserable knowing he is just as miserable too.
I just don't know what to do or where to start.
I feel really lost.
Hello Becolar
Welcome to the Online Community.
I am sorry to see that you have been diagnosed with Grade 3 DCIS and are waiting for your 2nd surgery.
Being diagnosed and undergoing treatment for cancer is a stressful and worrying time and it can definitely add strain to any existing relationship issues. I am sorry that you are struggling with your husband and I understand that you are getting tired of the arguments.
Thinking about the financial implications also must be a worry at a time when you need to be focussing on your health.
I will pop some links here that may help if you want to take a look.
The community is divided into groups and the Emotional Support one you have joined will hopefully help when you need to share how you are feeling with others. There is however also a Breast Cancer one that may be of help.
Breast cancer forum - Macmillan Online Community
There is also some counselling support that may be worth considering- even if it is just to work through your feelings. There is some counselling that may be available through BUPA/Macmillan. There is a link on the page.
Talking, counselling and support groups | Macmillan Cancer Support
And finally I have put this link on coping with treatment as there are links on it to emotions and relationships and how to get further support.
Coping with treatment | Macmillan Cancer Support
I hope that this may be of some support.
I wish you luck with your surgery and hope it goes as well as it can.
Jane
