Struggling with my hubby and cancer

Hello. First time on forum. I am really sorry to hear what you and your daughter and husband are going through. My situation is similar. I am 42 and my dad who is 78 has tumour in colon. My mum and I are doing everything to care for him but he gets so angry. This morning he made me cry. I wanted him to take an iron tablet as he is anemic and he said he would never listen to anything my mum and I say and he looked so angry. Dad was diagnosed only about a month ago. How is your situation now? I want to set healthy boundaries with my dad but I don’t know how. He did apologise today which is a first. 

Hi well last week he was admitted to intensive care and now in high dependancy he was horrible before he was in hospital and although he really poorly it's a relief that the hospital are looking after him he wouldn't listen to me and always pushed me away not nice hope your situation improves. My hubby always grumpy before cancer but worse since I think he will be in hospital for a while I'm just worried what he be like when out I don't think I will cope again xx

I’m sorry he is so poorly but at least he is being well cared for while you get a break. My mum and I feel awful but we hope my dad is kept in hospital for a while after his next surgery because we don’t know how we will cope. My dad has always had a temper too but never with me until over last few years. It seems cancer makes bad traits worse. My mum and I feel he is some 90 year old man we don’t know. In reality he is only 78. I feel I have already largely lost my dad. Are you getting any support from anywhere? My work has a counselling service so I have applied to that today. 

Ps how is your daughter coping now?

Xx

Hi well we made an appointment me and my daughter who is fine she suffers severe anxiety she do t live at home she married lives about ,five minutes away McMillan offer support that's who we going tsee I truly believe that when one person Iin Family gets cancer the whole family do .My hubby was diagnosed. In August but had be poorly months before hope you can get some support I find things difcult but I have a sister to chat too hope you and your mom gets bit respite if he goes in hospital I know it's horry what's happening to your dad and my hubby but we matter too and I never thought Iould say that I'm always hear to chat too much coz if anybody knows what you and your mom going through I do

Thank you. He is at consultant appointment right now so we will see what that brings. Hugs.