Just need to vent!
My Dad was diagnosed with advanced primary bowel and secondary liver cancer with nodules on the lungs around a year ago. As you can imagine this year has been a difficult one, trying to deal with his diagnoses, his prognosis and the affects of chemo. He also suffered a stroke at the end of August which has now left him pretty much immobile meaning his treatment that he only just started after lockdown had to be stopped. I feel that at any age it’s difficult to process and look after a parent who is dying but I am only 26 years old and I just feel that my time with my Dad has been robbed from me. The idea of him not being there to walk me down the isle or meet his grandchildren is a very difficult thing to accept and understand.
My partner who I have been with since August last year broke up with me today. His reasons where simply because I’ve changed ever since my Dad got his diagnoses. He says I’m miserable and unhappy and he can’t deal with all the negativity. He says he doesn’t know how to support me through my Dads illness and this is why he’s walked away from me. I just feel so deflated. I can understand where he’s coming from to a certain extent. As things have changed in my life, my Dad and my family have become the number 1 priority. I need to be there to support them all, as this is when you all need to come together and be strong for one another. He asked me if I’d move out with him next year but he wants to relocate to somewhere that’s 30 miles away. When I told him I couldn’t do that right now as it’s not the right time because I need to be there for my family, he just didn’t understand and said I’m putting my life on hold for my family. He’s made me feel so incredibly guilty for feeling sad and emotional about my Dads illness. I guess I’m just reaching out to see if this has happened to anyone else and how to move forward. I’ve just lost one man that I love and will soon lose the other, how do you ever move forward from that?!
Thanks for reading x
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that your dad has advanced bowel cancer. It must have been an extremely difficult year for you not made any easier by your partner breaking up with you recently.
I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you also post this message in the friends and family group, which I can see you're a member of, as I'm sure you'll find support from others in a similar position there. If you'd like to do this then clicking on the link I've created will take you straight there.
x
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