Does anyone else feel like they need new friends after cancer hit their life? Some friends have been helpful, most haven’t and I feel a lot of resentment. Even with the ones that have been helpful, I still have a resentful feeling that they are able to “dip in and out” of my life (which is hell at the moment) whilst they carry on with theirs. I understand the world can’t stop turning, but it feels incredibly lonely and unfair.
I feel as though when I’m through all of this treatment, I’m going to be a totally different, negative and scarred person who can’t relate to the people I knew before. Seems harsh, I know - just being honest. Does anyone else feel like they need new “people”?
Hi hannnah
I am no longer young but i think the experience of finding it difficult to relate to people who haven’t been through the trauma of cancer diagnosis and treatment is universal. I am perhaps luckier in that by my age a number of family and friends have had similar experiences. When people haven’t been through something like this they often expect you to bounce straight back to normal when of course it isn’t like that in reality. They have little understanding of what you are going through mentally and physically. I hope you can find people to connect to who can understand your situation.
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