Hi everyone,
I'm new here, and I'm looking for people who understand what it's like to have a partner with cancer.
My boyfriend was recently diagnosed with cancer after being admitted to hospital unexpectedly. He had emergency surgery to remove a large tumour from his bowel and now has a stoma bag.
We've since been told that a biopsy has confirmed cancer in his liver, and he's due to have another blood test before starting chemotherapy for his liver. There's been so much to take in, and everything has happened so quickly that I'm still struggling to get my head around it all.
I'm finding the uncertainty and fear of what comes next really difficult. I'm trying to be strong for him and support him as much as I can, but sometimes I feel overwhelmed and don't really know who to talk to.
I'm also finding it difficult adjusting to the changes in our relationship. I want to look after him and be there for him through everything, but I'm still his girlfriend, and I'm trying to work out how to balance being his partner with being his carer. I miss how things were before all of this happened, and sometimes I feel guilty for even thinking about myself when he's the one going through cancer.
I'd really like to connect with other people who are going through something similar, particularly those supporting a partner through bowel cancer, liver cancer, surgery and chemotherapy.
It would be lovely to talk to people who understand what it's like to be on the other side of cancer, supporting someone you love while trying to cope with your own feelings and fears.
