My husband has had Prostate cancer for maybe 12 years and chose the watch and wait treatment, he had the hormone tablets the last few years and then progressed to the 3 monthly prostap injection.
In July he started to pee blood and when investigated the cancer had gone into his bladder.
Due to his age 86 years and other health issues, kidney failure and heart disease plus Altzeimers we have opted for palliative care.
I have been in phone contact with the hospice and they seem to think I'm coping and doing all the right things they have said they will come and see us at some point.
My husband is now getting pain in his shoulder which I am not sure is inactive related or the cancer. He sleeps most of the day and hardly eats. He is on oxycodiene small dose for this pain
Just so hard this watching, but he is comfortable and where he wants to be
Hi Kaz. Very sorry you are having to go through this. I will have to do the same with my partner, who is 59, in the next year or two and have no idea how I'll cope. I am grateful for the time we disnt think we'd have (she was given 9 months back at the start of 2024) but she's still here thankfully. If i can provide half of the care and love that you are obviously showing your husband, I will be doing well.
Sending you both strength and my very best wishes.
My husband was diagnosed with stage4 inoperable cancer in both lungs. After an MRI scan he has an incalculable number of small cancers in the brain. The hospital and doctors GPs have been truly amazing and have listened to his concerns fears and despair. I cope by putting it in a box and closing the lid. But i am fearful of the future, how long, how bad, how hard will it be. At the moment we are coping and I am told help is out there but I'm not good at asking. His memory is slipping but he stuggles on.in somevwaysbits a relief to know others are experiencing the same exhausting days and feel worn out, frustrated and isolated. We just carry on.
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