Hi, just joined and looking for any similar experience out there.
Mum in law has incurable cancer in abdomen. She is doing ok in hospital and up until our last visit on Wednesday she understood her diagnosis and discussed it with us in her a matter of fact way. She has no dementia and is quite sharp. She's 89.
At visit on Wednesday she mentioned twice that she hadn't been told yet what was wrong with her and they're still doing tests. We didn't correct her. She said it again during that visit and in the evening to a different visitor.
We have asked to speak to palliative care nurse to understand how to deal with this but still waiting.
Meanwhile any ideas how to deal with this?
Do we correct or just roll with her idea of what's going on.
TIA for anyone with any experience or advice
Hi Moreteaforme
Welcme to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
I wondered reading your story if the hospital is actually doing some tests in case there is something beyond the cancer going on with your mother-in-law. I know with Janice she had some interesting other illness going on beside her cancer not least when she had ended up with a collapsed lung (she has done that 6 times!).
People often talk about cancer patients being in denial but sometimes it can just be they making the most of every day and that might just not be a bad thing.
<<hugs>>
Steve
