Hi, I’ve just joined this forum as I’m struggling to do the right thing supporting my partner.
The biggest problem in my partner was in denial from the outset which was 10 months ago.
its been a long journey for him with lung/trachea cancer.
chemo put him in hospital twice the latter with neutropenia Sepss.
After 3 months recover he has just has radiotherapy for 14 consecutive days.
We have been together for 10 years and bless him a stubborn character by nature.
He has not read any of his medical notes so I have paved the way very tentatively through each step,I have a health log from day 1 as I felt I had to take control of the situation as he was burying his head in the sand.
He is stubborn by nature and has become very argumentative which I as I understand is to be expected.
i wonder are there any carers who can share similar experiences aa I’m doing the very best I can with little family support.
looking forward to hearing from people in the same situation as I will reach out to any source that will help us.
Hi Lakey
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
My name is Steve and I am one of the community champions, my experience of cancer is via my wife who has Leiomyosarcoma - secondaries in her lungs and the primary is beleived to have been in her womb but that was removed earlier when she ended up with an emergency hysterectomy with sepsis - that was not an easy time.
I can relate to the bit about little family support though we were lucky that a very good friend was totally amazing as that helped us deal with our son who was only about 7 when she was diagnosed.
Something I know I had to learn was about making sure I looked after myself if I was to be best able to support both of them. Looking at your feelings when someone has cancer helped me recognize these emotions and accept them as normal and valid and that helped to make them just a bit less overwhelming.
For us now most of that was about 10 years ago, Janice had two types of chemotherapy and the second managed to render her cancer stable, now we just see the oncology team about once a year and most of our care comes via the GP.
<<hugs>>
Steve
