Mum was recently diagnosed with DCIS breast cancer in both breasts. The doctors think they have caught it early because of her keeping up with her mammogram checks so currently going through biopsies and then awaiting a surgery date.
Mum also has lupus so her immune system is already not great. I also have lupus so I know how to care for her in that respect but cancer on top of it has thrown me completely. I don’t know what to say or do that can help her or even how to feel myself.
any advice would be greatly appreciated 
Hi Mck21
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
Well done to your mum on keeping on with the mamograms, as you say hopefully things have be caught early. Sorry I have no experience of lupus but it does sound like things might perhaps be more of a challenge.
With the mix I wonder if it might help to speak to one of the nurses here, either using Ask a Nurse or via the helpline on 0808 808 0000 - the line is open 8am to 8pm 7 days a week
Something that I found helped me understand my own emotions was looking at Your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize these emotions and accept them as normal and valid I found helped to make them less overwhelming.
Do post on here whenever as someone is always listening.
<<hugs>>
Steve
