I am supporting my husband, who is about to start treatment for prostate cancer. This comes after a long journey that stayed with a routine blood test showing a high PSA reading. He responded by having a break down, taking to his bed and drinking for 5 months.
When he finally began to accept things, I began being investigated for Ovarian cancer. After 8 months and 3 waits for cancer results I was given the all clear and the possibility that I was mis diagnosed. This has put extra strain on our relationship as we are in very different places.
I can not express any feelings of relief and the need to get out there and live life, as I feel guilty as my husband has a long way to go. I don’t want friends and family to worry about me so I don’t tell them how I feel.
I am hoping this forum will help me talk and express my feelings.
Hi Jo2
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
It can be amazing how talking/typing out things can help us cope with those emotions. When my wife was first diagnosed I felt like i was doing ok and the number of friends who would say things like how well she looked and things that sometimes made me feel like "what do you know".
Something I found quite helpful was looking at your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize the emotions and accept them as part of our new normal can help to make them less overwhelming. Sometimes of course being able to talk to someone can be helpful and I have both used the helpline here (0808 808 0000 - open 8am to 8pm 7 days a week) or visiting our local Maggies has been quite helpful too.
I am sure you will have already seen our pages on Prostrate cancer and they can be helpful in understanding different routes in treatment options.
Good news on your all clear, totally understand how you might want to celebrate that but understand how that might feel dificult.
<<hugs>>
Steve
