I’m so scared.

Focus on the positive. she is very lucky to have someone who loves her She still has one treatment option left to try so there is time and if she wants to make funeral arrangements sit with her and talk about church or service and contact details of friends and family who will come while she still able. I nursed my husband through terminal cancer in 2011 and I now have stage 4 cancer in lung liver and spleen. Just enjoy your quality of life with each other and make dates to enjoy and days out depending on her and your energy  levels otherwise life becomes a round of hospital appointments and trips to the pharmacy. If you are not married it might be an idea to make a will.  Here is the free will link https://www.macmillan.org.uk/forms/gifts-in-wills/ppc-free-wills.html?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=G_PS_LEG_UK_BND_FW_2025&gclsrc=aw.ds&&infinity=ict2~net~gaw~ar~665614884372~kw~free%20will%20macmillan~mt~e~cmp~G_PS_LEG_UK_BND_FW_2025~ag~Free&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20371896178&gbraid=0AAAAADk5Jf_s2ZuSR9RQYlGC44MmBArp1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAg63LBhDtARIsAJygHZ516vSwGU5DLM3cIgiZwpIsJMCY-1NWCstbGbIry7j6MdY6lGWY9awaAgHYEALw_wcB.

Once it got to a certain stage and they told me he had not got long I saw my husband as my child and treated him as such . I encouraged friends and family to visit. The district nurses were very helpful and I recruited a carer or you can do it through your local council . 

Macmillan advisors at the hospital will help you with finances 

I would also suggest you do a power of attorney on the www.gov.uk website - health and finance - it does take 6 weeks so do this now. 

Hope this helps and love and blessings to you both

Hi, sorry that you & your partner are going through this especially as she is so young. I recently lost my husband & its so hard. We only had 3 months to get our heads around the diagnosis. I worked part time until he came home from hospital & I needed to be home to care for him. I was immediately signed off work for 3 months with stress. I am lucky that I will be on full pay for 6 months then after that its 1/2 pay for a further 6 months. As soon as we found out his diagnosis was terminal We had the funeral discussion so I knew exactly what he wanted. I then went to our local funeral directors & asked what the approx cost would be. I thought he would want a 'pure' funeral but he said he wanted those that wanted to say goodbye could be there. The only other thing he wanted was a piece of music called Cherio by Jethro Tull at the end of the service  He only told me that a couple of days before he died but it was sorted for him. His funeral cost around £4,250 that was all the funeral directors fees, embalming etc, cremation, order of service, celebrant, flowers & a buffet at a local pub. Contact Macmillan to see if there are any benefits you can claim. They arranged for us to get attendance allowance which isn't means tested its £110 per week & its fast tracked if you have a terminal diagnosis. Also make sure you have contact with the palliative team..they can arrange for things for your home to make your partner more comfortable such as air cushions, bed rests etc. They can also work out the best pain meds when needed. We had weekly visits when hubby was at home & when he ended up back in hospital we were transferred over to the hospital palliative team where they came in to see him every day. We tried for 3 weeks to get him into our local hospice & he finally got a bed less than 2 days before he passed away. The care there was exceptional. They are still in contact with me & they have offered me bereavement counselling if I want it.I've decided to go back into work next month as I miss my job.Its been a hard few months going from working to being a full time carer ...then nothing. I need to keep busy.  I hope i've given you an idea of what you may be facing. Try to make some good memories whilst you can.  There is help out there you just need to know where to look. Again your 1st port of call should be Macmillan. They will fill in the forms for you for attendance allowance & anything else you can claim.