Masectomy 2 days before christmas

Hi. My husband was due to have cancer surgery just before Christmas and would havve had to stay in for 2-3   weeks. So i planned to book an air bnb near the hospital as it wasnt close to home and just muddle through. In the end he had to have a blood infusion as he was anaemic so he didnt have surgery uuntil January.

As your mums op is 23rd, will she actually be home for christmas? Is there a chance she wont be? You may need to plan on the hop and just settle with simple, after all, being together is what really matters. If she is home, then she may be very tired, sore, in pain etc. Can you go simple, be willing to change plans last minute and then make a lovely meal together in the new year when she is stronger. 

We once held Christmas in August, we did the lot, food, tree, fake snow, presents and carols. It was great!

I wish your mum well and hope it is all ok for you all.

Hi, Probably not much by way of help, but my partner is heading into this Christmas on the back of two major surgeries and radiotherapy. Ordinarily, it would be her favourite time of year and we'd go 'all out' on decorating the house and garden. However, we have decided to 'go simple' as Malengwa says. The tree, the nativity and a few houses from the Christmas village will make an appearance and that's it. Those are the elements that connect to good memories of Christmases past. Meals will be provided in oven ready form from the supermarket. 

After Christmas, we will not be welcoming 2026 as much as we will be saying good riddance to 2025 - our worst of years. What we cannot enjoy, I hope we can at least endure.

I too wish you and your mum well.