Relationship Struggles - so lost

I totally understand where you are coming from. Our son was like it with me!....matter of  fact the kinder I was the worse the attitude etc.  Times like that i had to take myself out of the situation. Is your husband having counselling because my son refused that. I think it would have helped a lot.  Indeed are you reaching out for counselling.

He may be worried aabout the stem cell transplant. My son went on to have one.  I will say once hubby is admitted use this time to recharge your batteries, make time for yourself.  

Please lean on forums like this they helped me or feel free to message me. 

Hayley x

Hello. Sorry you are struggling and I have never posted on here before but I just wanted to say your not alone. I also don't think the best thing you could do is leave even though I truly understand why you feel that way. My husband has been going through chemo for an aggressive lymphoma since July and it's hard. He was due to have a stem cell transplant last week but it got cancelled due to the most recent pet scan showing too much positive cancer activity to proceed. We had sent our kids away to grandparents in order to isolate and then we had to bring them back and try to explain things aren't quite going to plan. It's hard on the whole family and my husband has a great positive mindset but a lot of the time it feels like I'm living with a different person to who I married which is both sad and frustrating. I hate that he's suffering and some days there's nothing you can do but listen to all the negativity and try and let it slide because being unwell for that length of time has got to be draining physically and mentally. I hope you take time for yourself each and every day to do little things that make you happy without feeling guilty. Talk to people you trust about how hard it can be because people sometimes don't understand the many challenging ways in which cancer can affect a relationship. It's hard and sorry this turned out so long, take care of yourself too. 

Hi

i have been on that journey Was diagnosed march 2022 had chemo over a year then stem cell at Kings in London hard going but I am in remission from this incurable but very controllable blood cancer believe me you are not alone

reach out if you want advise