Good evening,
I am having an awful time. My husband has all these issues with cancer and I am feeling like I have had enough. He is extremely demanding of me and was even before he was diagnosed. Now he has a good reason to demand my attention. Sometimes I feel like I should have taken the advice offered years ago and left him. He has always wanted me to take care of him and in spite of several medical problems he always refused medical treatment until it became critical. This involves me having to make several visits to the emergency department dragging him along. We are six months in to him being diagnosed with cancer and he is more demanding than ever. He has a power chair so he can move with ease from one room to another but he refuses to do so. He expects me to fetch and carry whatever he wants and although we have carers coming in he expects me to do personal care whenever he needs it. This is difficult for e to say but I just want a break from him. I am fed up with doing literally everything and being stuck indoors all day. I miss him being the pain he once was which was tolerable. Now life is rubbish for us both and I can’t help but wonder for how long. I just need to say this to someone and hope you understand.
Hi Teatowel
That does sound realy difficult and I am not suprised at how you feel.
Have you have a carers assessment? Often as carers something easy to overlook is ourselves and as they say "you cannot pour from an empty cup".
Something that helped me quite a bit was when my GP prescribed eco-therapy - basically going for a walk but especially if I could do it amoung trees.
<<hugs>>
Steve
