It's all too much!

Hi astidog 

Sorry to hear about what you are going through, battles over eating can be a quite common occurance. 

I wonder has she had a needs assessment - you can see about them here. At the same time you might like to get a carer assessment that looks at how to support you. Our GP was really good in that he helped me in looking after my wife.

I can relate to the isuse of people who offer to help, funny how many said "but not today" when I needed some help though one friend was a real lifeline to us.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Hi my mum is 78 and sounds very much like your mum.My mum hasn't eaten for about 2 wks ,she will have a mug of milk and water.

Today she has only had her milk.Says she's not thirsty she's so weak now its absolutely awful .she needs some antibiotics but is refusing them ,i rang the GP and said its a very difficult situation. I really think she's had enough .

Its one of the most hardest things I've had to cope with ,im still having to work and care for mum its mentally and physically exhausted. 

I totally get how your feeling. 

Hi, I am sad to read about your mum and how things are for you. This caring lark is a lot more challenging than I ever imagined it would be. Are you getting any help from a Care Agency either through your adult social services or privately funded? 
you could contact your GP, they are supposed to have a ‘Gold Standard’ of care for cancer patients and respond to calls for help from carers and next f kin, contact the gp to ask for advice and support. Also your local palliative care team can help you. Patients can refuse food because they become confused. You need medical help or rather your mum does. If you feel you need help now call the 111 service. Don’t take on the responsibility for your mum. As sad as it is you are not responsible for her. I was told this by a specialist geriatric doctor who was very kind when my mother in law was in the later stages of life.