Hi everyone, this is my first post. I’m 42 and my husband was diagnosed a few months ago with stage four stomach cancer (spread to his liver). He had some chemo and immunotherapy, but after a scan it was found it wasn’t working. He decided to stop treatment (as of August). He was told he had 6 months to two years left.
he’s going downhill rapidly, he is starting to go off his food and lose weight. He’s also in lots of pain and discomfort which the morphine doesn’t seem to help with. He has always been extremely active, but struggles now with walking a little way and can’t do odd little jobs anymore (washing, washing up etc)
I’m thinking with his pain is getting worse and his loss of energy, appetite and ability to move around without pain, then we are looking at a few months now.
I’m currently working full time (teacher) but I feel I may need to have some time off soon to help him - I don’t want to let my class of pupils down, but equally want to be helpful to my husband.
I don’t know what I want from this post, I’m just struggling with what to do, how to feel and how to keep everything together for our two daughters (18 and 20). I’m struggling to sleep as I have all these horrible thought going around in my head and I kind of feel like I’m in limbo and trying to keep life normal in all ways that I can, but almost grieving already for I know what’s going to come.
He won’t let me contact the doctor to get any palliative care involved and is trying to push through his pain and I just don’t know how to help?
thanks for reading.
