Bone Tired Exhausted

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I’m emotionally, physically and mentally exhausted on all levels and it’s only getting worse. 

Im trying to support my husband with the ongoing journey of his kidney cancer that’s spread around his body and the changes to absolutely everything in our lives. He’s doing well considering everything but it takes it out of him completely, he’s forgetful and limited in activity which is a huge thing for him to learn to pace and adapt to his capabilities nowboth just being in our 40s).

This does mean the state of our home where we both work from, the care of our animals, decisions and driving etc falls to me. 

I have my own struggles and worries with my own fibromyalgia, vitamin D deficiency, mental health, perimenopause and coming to terms with being neurodivergent… i’m so so exhausted and there’s no easy fix. Not for my husband, not for me, not for our lives and it feels so hopeless. My body doesn’t feel ok, this is the worst i’ve ever been and I feel there’s no one able to listen or change it for me and i’m going insane while vanishing and i’ll have to keep going until i burnout completely 

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    Hi Amypug welcome to the forum.and I am so very sorry to hear what is happening for you right now. Can you give the Macmillan Line a call and have a chat to them there as they are good listeners. 08088080000. Do you have any family that could help out at such a challenging time or friends that may rally round. Either way you need to find some space in every day to have some metime..I'm not suggesting you takes ages away but 15 minutes hear and there throughout a day gives you some much needed breathing space. Could your GP help with the perimenopause part for you? I hope that you find some relief and we are here for you as you need us to be. Best wishes Gail xxx

  • Thank you Gail really appreciate you taking the time and also will save that number in my phone. Unfortunately friends live far away and the family… it’s complicated. I’ve since spoken GP and now to await a month for bloods to be done… 

    I’ve had a terrible shock today. Cleaning out my husbands bedroom and didn’t realise how much of a dumping ground it’s become for empty packets, rubbish. And amongst the rubbish I found an 2 litre bottle filled with pee. This is a new rock bottom. I’ve tried discussing with husband but i’m not getting through to him, even on unsanitary and unhygienic front. He keeps apologising that i found it, i’m worried for his numbness towards this