Mum has ovarian cancer

Hi shriek, sounds like you’re having to deal with a lot there. I’m currently caring for my husband with cancer but, years ago now, I moved in with my parents to care for them (dad with terminal cancer, mum with Alzheimer’s). I live abroad so it was a big change, and a steep learning curve as it was my first time as a carer. I had to work hard not to become too isolated! I made an effort to get to know their neighbours and found two who were happy to lend a hand when needed, also I contacted their friends who lived nearby and made sure they knew they were welcome to call in. MacMillan were really good & provided a night-sitter for my dad during the last stage of his illness, which meant I got some rest. Carers came in for an hour in the morning to help with personal care and I had 2 hours a week respite - it wasn’t much time to get out to shop (online supermarket hadn’t quite got going then!). Hopefully your sister is able to help out? Eventually, I asked my husband to come over too - it was good to have some practical and emotional support! It feels easier this time around: it’s not my first time, I’m in my own home, and I’ve organised regular professional psychological support for myself (looking back, I could’ve done with that last time too). Wishing you and your sister well for the time ahead.

thank you Miranda. What you say makes so much sense, especially to call on Mum's friends to help emotionally support her, alongside my sister and I. It is certainly a steep learning curve and I'm grateful to hear about the experiences of others like yourself. It makes this whole parallel universe we find ourselves in seem a bit more manageable. Wishing all good things for you and your husband. xx