Hi All,
I have been pondering about writing this for a while, but the emotions haven't moved, and have always looked on tis forum and found a lot more people in a horrible situations than mine.
My wife is in remission (5 years now) but the care side of her cancer journey has only just recently subsided as she had a period of 4 years of crimpling effects of having to have other ops due to chemotherapy and the medications making her very weak.
I have recently started feeling emotional about it all. I lost my Dad in the middle the cancer journey, and have felt like I've been a in a fight and flight mode for the past 5 years, but now I can start taking time out for myself, the emotions of not being needed as much, and grief from my Dad has hit me,
I just want to know if anyone has gone through something similar and how they get themselves out of this.
Its not something I have ever been through before, and do find it hard to write about these things.
It is really very common to find ourselves so busy we do not have time to reflect on things that have happened and then when the pressure eases those emotions we did not have time to process come back. I know after I lost my dad there was a feeling of positive in that he was no longer suffering, relief in that we no longer had pressure to support him and guilt for feeling relieved.
There is no "right" answer for grief. My dad was Scots and it took me some time before I could hear bagpipes again. If it might help it might be worth contracting cruse uk
I think one thing many carers find out the hard way that importance of looking after ourselves.
<<hugs>>
Steve
