Counselling

I'm so sorry to hear what you are both going through, it is a tough journey that nobody wants to be on for sure. I'm still awaiting  my first check up to see if my radiation has worked in my eye (treatment was October). I am sure you are in a permanent stress cycle and glad counselling has helped you. My husband buries his head for sure but maybe it is something to consider for myself when ready.

Hi Hermes

My husband has terminal lung cancer he started chemo this week I find it hard to talk to anyone about it even him some days I feel so sad then other a bit better  I've just started on this forum hopefully get chatting with other too .

Hi Hermes and well done you for recognising that you needed some support and getting some.  Counselling can be scary at first and it isn't for everyone, but I always say you should at least try something before ruling it out.. It. can be really helpful to talk to a total stranger about the situations we find ourselves in.  Someone who is there just for us, listening.  Funny how sometimes someone you don't know can pick up on something you (and maybe others close to you) haven't.  Keep talking Hermes and of course we are always here

Hi Doodles.  Sorry you have joined us on the world's worst roller coaster ride.  There will be good days and bad days, ups and downs, don't rule anything out in the support line.  Always try something at least once.  Different people find some things really helpful, but there will be others who find that that same thing doesn't work for them at all.  You don't; have to keep going with something if it doesn;t work for you.  And of course, there are always lovely people here who will support you all the way

The u so much for your kind words I think I do need thus group for  a chat haven't got great family support and I'm not great at talking about my feelings . I read on here and know I'm not alone .

Hi Doodles7 - sorry you are in this situation that none of us want to be in but hopefully talking to others going through it too will help. I certainly find it good to be able to share my feelings. For example, my husband is finally home from hospital after a terrible reaction to his first chemo anid he's really upbeat, eating loads, up and about and we are acting as though everything is "normal" but inside i am still crying and dreading our meeting with the consultant on monday to agree a new chemo regime.i think the stress is also causing physical issues for me for example i have developed neuropathy in my feet and my eye sight in one eye has got worse. Had blood tests re the neuropathy and have an opticians appointment on friday. Its all the practical things i need to get sorted for my husband aswell - prescriptions, blue badge for car, outreach hospice visits etc etc ..... i have taken this week as leave so as not to have to cope with well. My GP has also put me on antidepresants and my view is to take all the support offered. I hope you are having a better day today - to be honest my mood can change in an instant - a photo, a memory - anything can have me in tears but i am trying not to do it in front of my husband as it annoys him. We're only in our early 50's and i'm grieving for the life we wanted to have going forward. take care of yourself and remember "its good to talk" xxxx