Knowing what to say

Hi

So sorry to hear about your sister but a big thanks for asking this question. Very appropriate too as this Thursday is time to talk day.

You are right that her reaction to the diagnosis is absolutely typical and it can take some time for her to process that. Sometimes it can seem the people we least want to talk to are those we feel close to and finding words of comfort when we too are in shock can be hard. One tip I was given was "if you do not know what to say just listen" - but I know my personality sometimes gets in the way of that.

For you it might help to look at Your feelings when someone has cancer as that might help you find the strength to be the best sister ever - it is not easy but rest assured everyone here will be standing beside you to lend some strength.

<<hugs>>

Steve

I am the same with my husband and I find it hard to talk to him or to others hope we can get some help with this on chat xx 

I'm so sorry to hear this :(  Life can be so cruel and finding the right words is almost impossible.  I don't think my sister will come to terms with her diagnosis with or without support.  She had her ascites fluid drained yesterday which I was hoping it would make her feel better but it hasn't.  It feels cruel that we are all getting on with our lives (to a degree but she is never out of our minds) when she can't and that makes me feel very guilty too.

Always here for support xx

Thank you for your kind words, the tips are very useful but I don't think she will ever come to terms with her diagnosis. I just hope she finds some peace but we will miss her terribly.  Such a cruel disease and still hoping for a miracle x

Always hoping for a miracle. We had the terrible news today that my partner likely only has months. I feel your pain Jacky. The is something utterly soul destroying about being so powerless. I am interested in positive thought and visualisation (at this point there's nothing left to lose) and wondered if anyone heard any research or knew of any  suitable literature on this? All the best to you all. You are amazing. 

Im so sorry to hear your news, its absolutely heartbreaking  Keep strong & never give up hope.