My husband was diagnosed with metastatic prostrate cancer in october 2019 which had already spread to his bones. They gave him palliative chemo and radio and a prognosis of 2 years. He had been doing so well but then got spinal compression so was bed bound and then early dec 2021 he fell out of bed and broke his femur. The docs also found he had high calcium levels in his blood. They operated on his leg but I was warned he may not survive the operation but against all the odds he did. The consultant told me he had a very poor prognosis now and they sent him home on 23 dec. Since then we have had carers come in 4 times a day but the last couple of days I have seen a real decline. He is sleeping most of the time and is refusing food but is vomiting. I called a palliative nurse round today to check him over because, to be honest, I thought he was at the end. The palliative nurse told me that he was stable and she couldn’t see any further changes in him since Xmas. I know they are the experts and they know what signs to look for but there have been massive changes in him. He was eating at Xmas, could hold a conversation, would only sleep for short periods throughout the day. He’s not doing any of that now. The palliative nurse even said that he didn’t look like he had lost weight. He HAS lost so much weight his face is almost skeletal and he can hardly speak now. Should I ask for a second opinion? I am hardly sleeping because of the need to keep checking on him. I am so worried about him. My husband is my life
