Struggling with the change of person

FormerMember
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I feel so silly to even write this as it seems horrendously selfish but I’m struggling with the man my boyfriend has become. The multiple cancers has completely changed him and I don’t know how to control my anger, frustration, annoyance.. it’s not malicious it’s just I feel like I can do nothing right! Everything’s angry and negative and it’s breaking my world. How do you deal and cope with a brand new person? How do you gain the extra patience needed? How do you not get frustrated when all you want to do is make them smile but they can’t? 
The feeling of not being able to do anything even when it’s my best breaks my soul! 
anyone feel like this with there other half? I can’t get my head round it 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    HI there- is she on sterioids? 

    When my husband was on them he was evil. It was very necessary though- he had been super low and stopped eating. I got on to the palliative nurse straight away and they put him on the steroids. I think they are both a miracle and evil! They perked him up but also made him manic so he couldn't sleep more than 2-3 hours a night. 

    He ended up lashing out so much that I took our daughter and we left for two days. 

    It was horrible. But after we weaned him off of them, he began sleeping and was okay again and his ole sweet, funny yet very ill fatigued pain ridden self. 

    Hope you are okay- how do you manage to cope?

    T.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Wow your reply is like I wrote it myself  yes she is and that's just how she can be. 

    She's on Steroids and morphine. She just wasn't eating but has.mlre in the passed week. 

    Its the moods and different temperament that we're all getting used to the children have noticed it too 5 and 6 

    Even her best friend said Chris don't react at the weekend it hard but like you say Thier on there somewhere.