Depression

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My wife under went breast cancer 20 years ago aged 39 mastectomy chemo tamoxifen  then last August it returned lungs and bones now on hormone therapy  intamacy and closeness nearly completely  disappeared after the first bout 19 years ago fetched on early menopause now Its even worse I feel lonely angry and sorry I know I should not I'm trying my best I cant do no more I do all the chores around the home ect but if I only mentioned so intamacy and it's a no go  I'm just getting to feel I'm a carrer not a husband I love my wife to bits but the anger and feelings are driving me mad any one else gone through this and any advise thanks

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I don’t have any experience there but I didn’t want your post to go too long unanswered.  I think it’s great you are trying your best and I’ve learned we carers put too many “shoulds” on expectations of ourselves.  It sounds like you’ve been through the wringer.  It’s tough isn’t it - we know our spouses have it “worse” but at the end of the day we’re having it pretty hard too and where so we go for support?  I hope you get some good advice here and meanwhile just sending you a virtual hug and a pat on the back.  Hang in there.