Weeks to short months

Hi Nothernirishlad

so sorry to hear about your wife. I can't imagine how difficult things have been for you both and my heart breaks for you having to explain it to your kids.

My husband is terminally ill and telling out kids who are a lot older than yours is one of the hardest things on earth. He told them himself and I picked up the pieces.

I'm sorry I have no words of wisdom to offer other than be led by what your wife wants. Our role as carers is to support them in any way we can, no matter how hard it is. 

I'm sure you're  doing an awesome job so keep doing what you're doing. Take it all one step at a time.

Stay strong.

love n hugs

Wee me xx

Thankyou so much for your words. It’s just awful watching and feeling helpless. Sorry to hear about your husband I honestly don’t know where they find the strength from. I’ll be there for her no matter what and the kids will be okay, we have tons of support so we are very blessed. Sending hugs x

Oh how really sad… I’m so sorry for all of you.  Do get whatever help is available, whether you think it will make a difference or not.  I know people who have used hospice support have generally found them really helpful.  I have started seeing a therapist- in December I was so sad but couldn’t really see how talking to someone would help - thinking it can’t change reality, but in the end I have found it incredibly helpful and has helped me get my thoughts together on how i want to be, especially for the children. You will know best what your wife wants.  I remember reading “The Woman From the Washington Zoo” that chronicles the life of a journalist with terminal liver cancer.  For her, the greatest sadness came from knowing she wouldn’t see her children grow up. She said one of the most meaningful things was when a friend promised her “I will make sure your children remember you.”  Weeks to short months can mean anything- we had a close friend with that prognosis and he lived 4 days.  Another friend was given months and is still going a year later.  I’m so sorry. I’m sending all the love and support I can your direction for what you have ahead.

Thankyou Jubby. Appreciate your advice. ️ 

My beautiful wife gained her angel wings on Thursday :-( thanks all for your support. 

Oh I am so so sorry, Northernirishlad, it is just heartbreaking…for you yourself and also to support your young children through this. If there is anything we can do here, please don’t hesitate to ask.  Meanwhile sending you prayers and hugs.    

So sorry to hear your sad news. It's just heart breaking for you all. Sending you all a huge virtual hug.

As Juppy says, we're all still here for you if there any support we can offer....even if its just to listen. Please don't feel as though you  can't reach out.

Also remember Macmillan Support Services also offer lots of information, support, financial guidance or just someone to listen. It’s free to call 0808 808 0000. Most services are available 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week. 

Perhaps way too soon, but there are other support groups within this community too that will be able to offer support including (+) Bereaved spouses and partners forum - Macmillan Online Community.

Stay strong.  

love n hugs

Wee Me xx