Feeling emotional tonight

FormerMember over 3 years ago

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It's been a tough 3 weeks. Mum is on an increasingly fast decline and we have been chasing one symptom after another for a while, pain, nausea, breathlessness and more.

I haven't seen my wife in real life (been on video chat every day) for almost 3 weeks now due to me now living with mum and being primary carer and normally living so far away.

I'm 'visiting' home to see my amazing supportive wife for 2~3 hours on Saturday.

But after a few nights of being up and just holding mums hand whilst she is coughing and trying to move the fluid off her chest it is starting to hit hard.

I'm not sure what I'm expecting by posting but I just want to share and let anyone else going through similar know they are not lone. Best wishes to all carers.

FormerMember over 3 years ago

Hi john72

i can’t even imagine how hard life is for you right now, take the positive from this and that is you have the opportunity to be with your mom and help her in her need, no matter how painful it may seem at the moment you will come to be greatfull you were with her, my partner of 27 years passed away at home while I was having my 3rd round of chemotherapy, totally unexpected and devastating, I have a lot of questions which will never be answered, I wish you all the prayers and positive thoughts I can send, your never alone evenin the darkest times... god bless

FormerMember over 3 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Thank you so much for your kind words. I have many questions I never got to ask my father and I'm sure at some point the same i will happen with mum. I have decided that is just an enigma about life that is probably good. For now all I want is mum to know she is loved and has somebody there to help. My amazing wife and I have decided that we have many years left (we hope) so a little time apart now will be insignificant to us but is so significant to mum it's not even for debate.

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