Rectal cancer

I’m so sorry to hear about your husband’s diagnosis. I wish him all the very best for his operation on Thursday. My husband was diagnosed with the same last August, and I have worked for weeks at a time in hospital car parks while he has had radiation and various pre op apts and operations etc. I have however been to all of his consultant appointments. Haven’t asked whether I could go or not, I’ve just gone. Have they turned you away from them? I guess every hospital may be different. A lot of consultations have been by phone as well, so we can put it on speaker and I can hear the conversation. Wishing you both all the very best 

Hi Bim07 Thankyou for your reply I have been able to sit in on some consultants meetings but there have been many appointments where I’ve waited in the car park. It makes me feel that I’m not involved in his care sadly. He goes in for his operation on Thursday and I will have to leave him at the door it makes me feel awful I am dreading it. The hospital haven’t explained when I can visit I have had to look that up online!

It’s horrible I know. I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this without being able to be by his side the whole time. It’s incredibly difficult. The number of times I’ve had to leave him and walk away as he goes in for an op and I’ve been in tears walking back to the car. I know exactly how you feel. Hopefully even though they haven’t explained it, things are relaxing enough that you will be allowed to visit at some point. I know they weren’t allowing visits on surgical wards a couple of months ago due to Covid as there were open wounds etc, but things may be changing. Are you able to video call each other so you can at least see his face and feel a little closer to him? 

Yes we’ll be able to video call I hope as it stands I think I’m able to visit for one hour per day . Better than nothing I suppose it just makes me feel so disconnected from what’s going on. Thankyou for allowing me to have a good moan.