Overwhelmed and in need of advice

FormerMember
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Hello, my husband is having treatment for throat cancer. (He also has advanced prostate cancer). The treatment for throat cancer is very aggressive: chemotherapy and radiotherapy and he’s half way through and feeling so unwell, weak, unable to eat..in despair- understandably. He wants to give up on the chemotherapy. Does anyone have experience of the other side of the treatment for throat cancer. When do things start to improve? Or any advice to give me about how I can reassure him. Overall his prognosis is pretty miserable. I intend to ask for some support for myself from Macmillan as am feeling very sad and overwhelmed. Thank you.

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi He had very little nausea but was prescribed anti sickness tablets which did help. There were many days with zero food intake which was worrying but we persevered. I bought an OmROn NE- C28P model... not through recommendation or choice but we live in a small town and it was the only 1 available. No idea if it’s the best but did the job for him. It’s a personal choice but David got so weak and anxious half way throughthat I asked to sit in on his oncologist meeting. They were hesitant but did allow me and it made things so much better to hear every thing first  hand x

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thank you so much that’s really very helpful. Hope you can have a lovely weekend. x

  • @ Edinmum and @Rosalina,

    Getting your other halves into the garden will do more than hopefully lift their spirits. 

    Exposure to sunlight, even if only for 5 minutes at a time, creates vitamin D in the body and this is vital for the uptake of calcium from the blood stream. Having excessive amounts of calcium in the blood (hypercalcemia) can cause abdominal pain, kidney stones, excessive thirst, bone pain, muscle weakness and confusion.

    I'm no doctor but the importance of daily sunshine was stressed on my wife and I from the beginning of her cancer treatments. When Marg's cancer had progressed to the point where going outside was causing more issues than it was solving, she went onto a Vitamin D supplement.

    Check with your doctors next time you see them.

    Peace,
    Ewen :-)

    The day after your carers journey ends, the sun will still rise.
    As will you.
  • Thanks for your advice. I do agree that getting some fresh air & sunshine is good natural medicine. Unfortunately my husband has been having very bad reactions his is treatment. 

    He spoke to his nurse who told him to stop his chemo meds then his oncologist gave him options to change his treatment plan. Since he stopped his meds he has been like a different person. He is now going to be getting all his medication via drip but it means he will be an inpatient for 2 days every 2 weeks. He has never been good at taking tablets so psychologically this is a better option for him. The oncologist said it just means lying in bed for 2 days but he has been in bed for 5 days over the weekend so if he is able to be in hospital for 2 days but be able to have more of a normal life for the next 2 weeks it is much more preferable! 

    Since he stopped his meds he has been like a different person & has been outside for a little bit on both days. He even came for a cycle with myself & the kids! Although he said it was hard he was glad he did it.